Just about four months ago, my life was the craziest it’s probably ever been! I was getting ready to graduate college and I was planning a wedding to take place just three weeks after graduation. Don’t forget Christmas with the family and New Years in between all of this; I’m not quite sure how I managed it, but somehow it all happened with only a few minor injuries—kidding!
It’s safe to say that most people know planning a wedding takes a lot of time and energy, and once you start the planning process it’s pretty difficult to focus on anything else. I don’t think planning a wedding ever comes at a convenient time; either you’re in school, working or busy with some other life event. Planning my wedding during this time of my life was no little task. I was about to be launched into the real world where I had to find a real job, but I decided to take on the planning and conquer it myself— with the help of my fiancé and mother of course.
Now that I’ve been through planning a wedding, and experienced the stress and frustration first hand, I don’t envy anyone who’s recently gotten engaged for exactly this reason. Don’t get me wrong, I get extremely excited when a friend of mine or someone I know gets engaged, because it really is a special time and goes by so quickly! But you soon realize the time that goes into making all the little decisions you never would have thought of, and it’s not something you’d want to go through again—trust me.
All of that said, I think I learned some valuable lessons during the time I spent planning my wedding and finishing school. The first was to stop looking at all the wedding stuff on Pinterest because it just made me depressed about how my wedding was never going to look. Ridiculous right?! My wedding was perfect, beautiful and better than I could have ever imagined; why would I let Pinterest ruin that? (I should disclose that Pinterest did give me some good ideas. So don’t rule it out completely, just limit your pinning.) Another great lesson I learned was even though I was the bride-to-be, that didn’t mean I was the queen of the universe, and had to be showered with gifts and parties constantly. I think all the wedding TV shows and what society tells you about being a bride gets in your head, and you think if you don’t have that same experience then it’s not right. And lastly, I learned to let people help me and delegate tasks. I was trying to control all the decisions at first—hard to believe, right?—but soon realized I couldn’t do it on my own and I had my fiancé, family and friends who were there to help me through it!
The day my wedding came was the best day for two reasons: One, I would soon be married to my best friend who I would get to spend every day with; and second, the planning would be over! After seven months of choosing colors, cakes flavors and card designs, I couldn’t wait for my wedding to be over—of course now I wish I could relive it because it was truly the best day of my life. Luckily there’s a honeymoon afterward to help you de-stress and relax, and give you time to spend alone with the person you just married. So for anyone who’s planning a wedding or recently engaged, remember to ask for help and don’t let society’s ideas of how a wedding should be ruin your special day!